Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Who says hello first?

Just curious, since i observe sometimes strange patterns of communication, or, even worse, not even communication starting...

And i have to admit, i assumed. I assumed, it would be everywhere in the world like where i live. So, now, i want to hear your opinion:

there is a group of people standing around, and someone walks up, stands then nearby

Who says hello first?
the one who arrives? or the group?


  1. I would say both, as soon as is feasible. For example, if there is a big conversation going on, the person walking up might want to wait for a good point to break in with a hello, and people in the group might want to finish what they are saying before turning to the new person. But I think both are responsible to greet each other.

  2. I would suppose it really rests on what kind of person the newcomer is, wouldn't it? If the person is a sub-type, it is very likely they would feel their interrupting a group as inappropriate behavior. On the other hand, if the person is of a dom-type, one would expect them to step up and say something to break the ice.

  3. Well said Cara and I agree, it is down to both. Taking shyness into account, the ones who are in there 'own environment' should also make a point to welcomming. It can be damn hard walking up to a group of people you don't know.

  4. I recall in my Slave Training (back in an earlier version of DD) that one of the tasks was to greet the people at the gate (for 3 hours). I would do so and help them with their meters, help them with the 'laws' and offer tours or whatever *winks*. Perhaps its just me, but I enjoyed that and have continued to greet people as they come in and help as I can.

    Probably about a third of the time, my greeting becomes an OOC conversation in IM where I explain the ways of the Dark Den. And its ok if some decide that DD is not for them, but usually that is not the case.

    I do think that it's important that people be made to feel welcome and greeting is a part of that. At the same time, I've been places with 'official greeters' and find it doesn't really work. They tend to have the idea that once they've 'greeted' the job is done, and move on to the next and after few minutes it becomes obvious that that's what is going on.


  5. Well reckon would depend on what tha guy approachin had in his hand. Now if the guy had a GUN aimed at sum buddy in the group they isn't plannin ta say nothin no way, NOPE! They gonna let the gun do tha talkin so would be up to the group to say sum thing which might be somethin like this here:



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